But they say their biggest fear is that too few people – especially young adults – will make sure to have their say.

So despite their criticism, they’re urging people to register and not underestimate the importance of their vote.

The federal government’s plebiscite bill was defeated again in the Senate this week, prompting it to plan a postal ballot.

That could take place as early as September 12, at a cost of $122 million.

Darren Ralph of Tamworth said gay friends had been blamed for the cost when they didn’t even want the ballot.

“We've elected the government to make decisions for us and they should be – one way or the other, yes or no.

“The $122 million can be better spent on nursing, teachers, pensioners, housing – anything, really. There’s no need to be posting out all this for people when it’s non-compulsory and it’s not going to make one difference to the government.”

Ex-Tingha man Tyson Schuman said he’d also seen gay people copping flack over the cost.

“People think the government is doing this for us, but we’re not wanting them to spend that money … I see it as a waste of time and stuffing our lives about.”

Mr Schuman, who came out at 21, said it put the gay community back under the spotlight for homophobes to attack.

“Coming to terms with you not being normal or considered to not be normal … you battle that right through school,” he said.

“Then you leave school and it doesn't change; you just get different aspects of it.

“We’re still seen as the outsiders and sometimes some of the comments do come across as bullying and nasty, and I think people don’t understand the trauma that young gay and lesbian people face.

“Just simple things like walking down the street and seeing straight couples holding hands and you just don’t feel comfortable enough to do the same thing, whether it be staring or comments – and this debate is another layer of that, I guess … 

“I've seen some really disgusting comments, things saying why don't we just cull that part of the population like kangaroos, you know?”

Mr Schuman said a postal ballot was unfair to younger generations in two ways: the method and the results.

He said it meant older people would be both more likely to vote and more likely to vote ‘no’. 

“This day and age, young people are more technology-based, so it’s going to be the older generation receiving these letters that are stuck in older ways,” he said.

“I’m 30 years old so I've got years left of my life, whereas someone, say, of 80 is at the tail end of their lives and they're basically deciding how I live the rest of mine.”

Mr Schuman created a Facebook post, which has been shared widely, “to rally my people”: to impress on his friends, family and other allies how important their vote is.

“A lot of my friends might think these issues are dealt with by other people … [that] it’s going to get sorted and the majority are going to do the right thing, but you never know, I guess,” he said.

“Seeing all these negative comments, I just want to rally my people.

“I just think in their eyes it might be too hard to sign up to place one vote and they don't understand how important that one vote is.”

Mr Ralph said he suspected many people, particularly young people who hadn’t used the post as much as their elders, would just throw it in the bin.

“I’ll certainly be ... posting my vote back, but I’m pretty sure there’s going to be a lot of people that will just not make a decision.”

Mr Schuman said